ASKING FOR HELP! And COACHING
Monday, 09 November 2009 19:11 | Written by Keith Bray | 
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ASKING FOR HELP! And COACHING
Funny, I'm in the "helping" business and as part of what I coach; I encourage clients to seek help from others and from within. Recently, the old adage" physician heal they self" has rumbled through my head. It is from within that I put these thoughts to paper.
I coach good stuff to my clients. Why is it I don't practise exactly what I work with clients to do?
I offer a great service, am good at, for those that take shots about my being self-serving in what I write, please be aware that I do a ton of pro bono (free/give back) back work, nary a day goes by that I don't accept my responsibility to give a little back, yet I am reluctant to reach out and say I need some help.
So today I am doing just that. To keep doing the pro bono stuff, I need to earn some money from those who will find value in my services and can afford to pay! Please help me.
Personal coaching is not well understood, and with all the self-help books and groups around, the benefits of coaching in my niche (addictions/transformation/spirituality) are not understood deeply. Some want to change on the cheap, and get the results they pay for. Let me assure you, my reader, that I offer something outside of and complimentary to traditional recovery programs. I offer a personal service with a guarantee of results and have a track record to support it.
I have amended and changed a template below, but I ask those of you who want to learn to take the time to read through. For those who think this is too much self promotion, please don't complain, just move on. It is this human beings effort to ask for help in an area important to him; it’s that simple, and no one should be judgemental. With an open mind, you might learn something and as we all know, there are millions who need help. Personal coaching is a viable, but not well understood, option.
"Why Should You Get a Coach?
What's easier? Working toward your goals alone through trial and error, or seeking the guidance and direction of someone who's been there and done that? (Note what high performers including athletes do).
The answer is obvious. When you seek the advice of someone who has been through it all before, you can then avoid the same mistakes and focus your time and energy on what truly works. That's the power of a life coach. (While possibly having the same positive outcome for clients, coaches operate differently from therapists or councillors).
Imagine yourself with a set plan and just the right advice. Coaching may shave years off the time it would have taken you to crystallize and reach your goals otherwise!
Here are the top 7 reasons why you need a life coach:
1. Builds confidence. You know you're under the guidance of someone successful and that your goals are attainable.
2. Guided plan. Sure, you can draft up a plan by yourself, but when you write out your plans with the help of a coach, you know you're getting a realistic plan that works!
Your coach will know shortcuts and can help you stay accountable as well.
3. Conflicts. Coaches can help you cope with current conflicts and tensions in your life. They can also give you tips on how to avoid similar situations in the future.
4. Personal attention. Coaching allows you to get one on one attention so you can be personally guided along your chosen path. If you run into struggles, your coach will be
there to provide much needed support and suggestions. (Further, certified coaches operate under a Code of Ethics that ensures strict confidentiality).Your coach’s job is to listen intently to YOU. How many in your life truly listen to what you are saying?
5. Dealing with challenges. Things will not always go according to plan. When you hit a snag, your coach can help you overcome the challenge and steer you back
into the correct direction. You can feel comfortable knowing that you're receiving expert guidance.
6. Versatility. You can decide how you'd like to use your coach. Do you want help with short-term goals or long-term goals? Perhaps you'd like both.
7. Enthusiasm. Your coach likely has a great deal of enthusiasm for their work, which will naturally rub off on you. Sometimes it may be difficult to keep up your drive, but
thankfully, inspiration is one of the main reasons why coaches exist.
Finding a Coach That's Right for You
There are a few tips you should keep in mind when searching for a coach that will mesh well with your personal style. The first concern is that your coach should have certain
credentials and experience. It depends on the field you're in, but ensure you do your homework when it comes to checking up on your coach.
See if you can find testimonials and reviews about potential coaches. Ask around and try to talk to someone else who has been coached by this person. After all, a good
referral is always more trusted!
Communicate with your potential coach and see what his or her communication style is like. Ask yourself whether or not you think you'd get along well with this person. Some
people might think the coach is fabulous, but if you don't think you'll personally communicate well, then it may not be a good fit for you. (In my case, because I guarantee results, the fit must be "two way", I turn down many requests to coach also). Make sure your coaching sessions will be conducted in a format that you find comfortable.
Ask yourself whether you're the type of person that needs to meet face to face. Nowadays with technology we can communicate in many different ways. Coaching sessions can take place over the phone, email, video conferencing, or in-person. In the end you should be proud of yourself for seeking expert help. Follow these strategies to find a great life coach for you and jumpstart your journey into the life you desire."
I do have a web site, and for a potential client, they can get a full background on me through exploration of my site along with some "free" tidbits and useful aids!
Most of my clients are in a position where they can afford to pay there bills, are not ready to take their problems into a more "public" forum, want confidentiality and a trusted confidant, are committed to honesty and are prepared to work at change and want to enjoy the trip! Clients are held accountable for results.
Apart from life experiences, I am fully certified and governed by a Code of Ethics from my governing body. My certification is on my web site.
So here I sit, asking for help. If you don't need my services, I hope you are a little more aware of what life coaching is, and when the situation arises, will refer me to someone who really needs help in making change. I do a session with anyone at no cost! Thank you for taking the time.
Funny, I'm in the "helping" business and as part of what I coach; I encourage clients to seek help from others and from within. Recently, the old adage" physician heal they self" has rumbled through my head. It is from within that I put these thoughts to paper.
I coach good stuff to my clients. Why is it I don't practise exactly what I work with clients to do?
I offer a great service, am good at, for those that take shots about my being self-serving in what I write, please be aware that I do a ton of pro bono (free/give back) back work, nary a day goes by that I don't accept my responsibility to give a little back, yet I am reluctant to reach out and say I need some help.
So today I am doing just that. To keep doing the pro bono stuff, I need to earn some money from those who will find value in my services and can afford to pay! Please help me.
Personal coaching is not well understood, and with all the self-help books and groups around, the benefits of coaching in my niche (addictions/transformation/spirituality) are not understood deeply. Some want to change on the cheap, and get the results they pay for. Let me assure you, my reader, that I offer something outside of and complimentary to traditional recovery programs. I offer a personal service with a guarantee of results and have a track record to support it.
I have amended and changed a template below, but I ask those of you who want to learn to take the time to read through. For those who think this is too much self promotion, please don't complain, just move on. It is this human beings effort to ask for help in an area important to him; it’s that simple, and no one should be judgemental. With an open mind, you might learn something and as we all know, there are millions who need help. Personal coaching is a viable, but not well understood, option.
"Why Should You Get a Coach?
What's easier? Working toward your goals alone through trial and error, or seeking the guidance and direction of someone who's been there and done that? (Note what high performers including athletes do).
The answer is obvious. When you seek the advice of someone who has been through it all before, you can then avoid the same mistakes and focus your time and energy on what truly works. That's the power of a life coach. (While possibly having the same positive outcome for clients, coaches operate differently from therapists or councillors).
Imagine yourself with a set plan and just the right advice. Coaching may shave years off the time it would have taken you to crystallize and reach your goals otherwise!
Here are the top 7 reasons why you need a life coach:
1. Builds confidence. You know you're under the guidance of someone successful and that your goals are attainable.
2. Guided plan. Sure, you can draft up a plan by yourself, but when you write out your plans with the help of a coach, you know you're getting a realistic plan that works!
Your coach will know shortcuts and can help you stay accountable as well.
3. Conflicts. Coaches can help you cope with current conflicts and tensions in your life. They can also give you tips on how to avoid similar situations in the future.
4. Personal attention. Coaching allows you to get one on one attention so you can be personally guided along your chosen path. If you run into struggles, your coach will be
there to provide much needed support and suggestions. (Further, certified coaches operate under a Code of Ethics that ensures strict confidentiality).Your coach’s job is to listen intently to YOU. How many in your life truly listen to what you are saying?
5. Dealing with challenges. Things will not always go according to plan. When you hit a snag, your coach can help you overcome the challenge and steer you back
into the correct direction. You can feel comfortable knowing that you're receiving expert guidance.
6. Versatility. You can decide how you'd like to use your coach. Do you want help with short-term goals or long-term goals? Perhaps you'd like both.
7. Enthusiasm. Your coach likely has a great deal of enthusiasm for their work, which will naturally rub off on you. Sometimes it may be difficult to keep up your drive, but
thankfully, inspiration is one of the main reasons why coaches exist.
Finding a Coach That's Right for You
There are a few tips you should keep in mind when searching for a coach that will mesh well with your personal style. The first concern is that your coach should have certain
credentials and experience. It depends on the field you're in, but ensure you do your homework when it comes to checking up on your coach.
See if you can find testimonials and reviews about potential coaches. Ask around and try to talk to someone else who has been coached by this person. After all, a good
referral is always more trusted!
Communicate with your potential coach and see what his or her communication style is like. Ask yourself whether or not you think you'd get along well with this person. Some
people might think the coach is fabulous, but if you don't think you'll personally communicate well, then it may not be a good fit for you. (In my case, because I guarantee results, the fit must be "two way", I turn down many requests to coach also). Make sure your coaching sessions will be conducted in a format that you find comfortable.
Ask yourself whether you're the type of person that needs to meet face to face. Nowadays with technology we can communicate in many different ways. Coaching sessions can take place over the phone, email, video conferencing, or in-person. In the end you should be proud of yourself for seeking expert help. Follow these strategies to find a great life coach for you and jumpstart your journey into the life you desire."
I do have a web site, and for a potential client, they can get a full background on me through exploration of my site along with some "free" tidbits and useful aids!
Most of my clients are in a position where they can afford to pay there bills, are not ready to take their problems into a more "public" forum, want confidentiality and a trusted confidant, are committed to honesty and are prepared to work at change and want to enjoy the trip! Clients are held accountable for results.
Apart from life experiences, I am fully certified and governed by a Code of Ethics from my governing body. My certification is on my web site.
So here I sit, asking for help. If you don't need my services, I hope you are a little more aware of what life coaching is, and when the situation arises, will refer me to someone who really needs help in making change. I do a session with anyone at no cost! Thank you for taking the time.