Keith Bray

HIDING FROM FACTS??

I look back on life, and find some of the things I said extremely ironic. There were facts I just did not want to accept.

How can a guy who habitually sits around a bar, intending to have one or two after work but staying ‘til midnight or later say things like “I better watch it, I’ve got alcoholic tendencies”? There was a fact there that existed, and while I tried to ignore it, it certainly did not go away.

Alcohol, soft drugs and using people for pleasure were some of the things I ignored until things got real bad. I know my behaviour was not unique. Can you relate in any way about areas of your life?

Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored.
--Aldous Huxley

“This is a hard concept for us maladjusted to get. We believed avoidance was a form of self-care. Our illness depended on our ability to deny its existence.  Only when we were bleeding out of every pore of our body, were we willing to admit that maybe there was a slight problem. We were afraid of the facts. To face the facts meant dealing with betraying our illness. It meant admitting we were lost and in need of help from others.

Recovery, from Step One on, is about confronting our issues straight on. We take personal inventory a lot in order to break through our denial and bond with the truth. We face, directly when possible, the people we have hurt because the fact is we have hurt many and we have a responsibility to try to help heal these wounds. As we do these actions, we watch ourselves become stronger. Our confidence – not arrogance – grows. Do we always like facing the facts? No! But our lives aren't based only on feelings anymore. They are based on doing the next right thing.”

Have you got to the place where you are prepared to face the facts, not ignore them, and take action?

Possibly through a chat, we can help put you on that path to a process of (life) recovery. (hopeserenity.ca Coached To Success)