BEING ASSERTIVE-A Daily Practice
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BEING ASSERTIVE-Daily Practice
I had to use a daily check list for about 10 years to help bring "balance" into my life. Balanced living did not come easy to me. I offer the checklist as a free download on my web site (www.hopeserenity.ca) and invite anyone who has a problem understanding and executing "daily balanced living" to download a copy.
One of the things I had to learn was to be assertive each day. As a "people pleaser", this wasn't something I did regularly and with low self-esteem and poor self-confidence I would either roll over or fight like crazy exposing my own insecurities.
Assertiveness does not mean aggressive or offensive. I offer this article to you as something to consider in your daily living. I hope it is of help and provides a tool to some of you who read it.
How to Be Assertive
Without Being Rude
or Controlling
How to Be Assertive Without Being Rude or Controlling
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4. Be humble.
bragging about yourself, even if it's in a joking manner.
5. Show confidence.
going to be assertive and take charge, show the confidence to back it up. People will
sense your lack of confidence if it isn't truly there, so give yourself permission to feel
good
6. Handle negative issues quickly.
part of being assertive. Handle issues with kindness and respect and people will
remember you for it. If you let problems linger or treat them in a negative manner,
people will remember that too.
7. Deal with feelings of superiority.
superior in a situation where you're being assertive. If so, be careful to avoid acting
rudely.
8. Apologize for mistakes.
spotlight. When you make a mistake in the spotlight, everyone knows about it. Act
appropriately and apologize, and people will respect you for owning up to it.
Remember that the skill of assertiveness is something that develops over time.
may be overwhelming to try to make drastic changes overnight. Ease yourself into it and test
the waters. It's always best to think with clarity and make your changes slowly.
With a gradual change, others will be more likely to accept your new assertiveness. Before
you know it, you'll have their respect for the new, improved you!
ItWhen you're being assertive, you're no doubt in theYou're only human, so perhaps you do feelIf problems arise, jump on them immediately. It's aabout yourself and your accomplishments.People enjoy being led by people who ooze confidence. If you're
You can combat resistance to your assertiveness by being humble. Avoid
Assertiveness is an important skill that can make your life more enjoyable, but,
unfortunately, it's also vastly misconstrued. Sometimes it's difficult to be assertive, or make
your beliefs known, while still maintaining peace and understanding.
Assertive people often come off as rude or controlling. This is because generally people
don't like to be told what to do or how to do it. The trick is in learning how to standThis is a skill you can
develop with a little know-how and practice. Try using the following tips in order to properly assert yourself: 1. Choose your words carefully. yourself in situations where you were previously passive. Think about the differentWrite them down and read them back ways that your words can be interpreted. to yourself if that helps. • 2. Develop good listening skills. skills. Remember that communication has two sides - speaking and listening. Truly listening will help you clearly understand the situation at hand. When you follow up with thoughtful and assertive speech, others are more likely to value your opinion. 3. Avoid taking things personally. you'll do everything right and still end up rubbing someone the wrong way. Learn how to brush off comments that don't matter.
up for yourself without making others feel imposed upon.
How to Be Assertive Without Being Rude or Controlling How to Be Assertive Without Being Rude or Controlling 1 4. Be humble. bragging about yourself, even if it's in a joking manner. 5. Show confidence. going to be assertive and take charge, show the confidence to back it up. People will sense your lack of confidence if it isn't truly there, so give yourself permission to feel good 6. Handle negative issues quickly. part of being assertive. Handle issues with kindness and respect and people will remember you for it. If you let problems linger or treat them in a negative manner, people will remember that too. 7. Deal with feelings of superiority. superior in a situation where you're being assertive. If so, be careful to avoid acting rudely. 8. Apologize for mistakes. spotlight. When you make a mistake in the spotlight, everyone knows about it. Act appropriately and apologize, and people will respect you for owning up to it. Remember that the skill of assertiveness is something that develops over time. may be overwhelming to try to make drastic changes overnight. Ease yourself into it and test the waters. It's always best to think with clarity and make your changes slowly. With a gradual change, others will be more likely to accept your new assertiveness. Before you know it, you'll have their respect for the new, improved you!
Assertiveness is an important skill that can make your life more enjoyable, but,
unfortunately, it's also vastly misconstrued. Sometimes it's difficult to be assertive, or make
your beliefs known, while still maintaining peace and understanding.
Assertive people often come off as rude or controlling. This is because generally people
don't like to be told what to do or how to do it. The trick is in learning how to standThis is a skill you can
develop with a little know-how and practice. Try using the following tips in order to properly assert yourself: 1. Choose your words carefully. yourself in situations where you were previously passive. Think about the differentWrite them down and read them back ways that your words can be interpreted. to yourself if that helps. • 2. Develop good listening skills. skills. Remember that communication has two sides - speaking and listening. Truly listening will help you clearly understand the situation at hand. When you follow up with thoughtful and assertive speech, others are more likely to value your opinion. 3. Avoid taking things personally. you'll do everything right and still end up rubbing someone the wrong way. Learn how to brush off comments that don't matter.
up for yourself without making others feel imposed upon.
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